Have you ever gotten a compliment and thought, “Really? I half-assed that and you’re going to compliment me on it? You have no idea what I could do if I wasn’t so freakin’ (fill in the blank ~ busy, tired, cranky…)”
How about this one ~ “You look great!” she says to you. “You haven’t seen me naked,” you think while smiling and returning the compliment.
I know a lot of really amazing women. I know a lot of really amazing women who don’t know how amazing they are.
We’re a self critical bunch, you know?
We always think we need to do more, be more, have more. We expect more.
We expect more from ourselves and we expect more from others. (Usually we give others some slack.)
Often we’re less kind to ourselves.
We hold ourselves to a standard that we would never expect anyone else to achieve.
We get caught up in our inner monologue about what’s not right, what’s missing, what should be better, and we stop paying attention to the rest of the world. We’ve studied our own flaws addinfinitum, and we think everyone else cares about them as much as we do.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
I know who you are, even if you don’t…