Are you ready to feel aligned in your business & life?
a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment
It’s such a loaded word —
Riddled with associations of guilt and unworthiness and impropriety.
So many of us hold out on feeling good, thinking we have to work hard first and then we get to enjoy the fruits of our labor.
But someday never seems to come.
Any of these feel familiar to you?
I’ll get more sleep when…
I’ll spend more time with my kids when…
I’ll take a vacation when…
I’ll get more exercise when…
I’ll buy myself that x when…
You are an exceptional woman.
you started your business because
you have a vision,
a dream, a passion to create,
a desire to serve, to change lives,
to change the world.
you’ve hustled & sacrificed & done all. the. things.
and now here you are.
and it’s just not what you expected it to be.
you’re deep in the grind.
feeling tired, stressed out, burned out, frustrated, unfocused, overwhelmed or just plain stuck.
a slave to the business you thought would give you freedom.
You’re not alone in this.
So many of us have been going about things all wrong.
All this time we’ve been confusing the proof of success with pleasure.
We’ve been mistakenly taught that first you have to get successful & then you get to enjoy it. But that’s like saying you have to reap the autumn harvest before you get to enjoy the springtime flowers.
It just doesn’t work that way.
Let me tell you a story…
A few years ago I ventured to Kripalu in Western Massachusetts to attend a retreat.
Over the course of the week our guide took us on a journey around the sun.
We started with Autumn — the serpent, shedding our skin, releasing what’s not serving.
Then we moved on to Winter — the jaguar, sitting in the darkness, feeling it all and trusting the unknown.
Both of these felt so familiar, places I’d spent plenty of time over the previous years.
And then we got to Spring — the hummingbird, joy, lightness, pleasure.
And shit, if I wasn’t so freaking uncomfortable all damn day.
I didn’t like anything. I didn’t like the music or the rituals or the interactions. The entirety of the day annoyed the hell out of me.
I couldn’t figure out why. And the fact that I was uncomfortable on THIS day – the day about joy – really pissed me off.
What was wrong with me???
I went to sleep contemplating my misery.
The following morning I awoke super early, while it was still dark.
I wrote in my journal, drank some tea, walked in the hazy dawn down to the lake where I stood watching the steam rise from the water and just breathed in the beauty.
On my way back to the lodge I took a detour to the labyrinth.
I stood at the entrance and set an intention to release what was holding me back from experiencing joy.
As I walked the labyrinth I began to think about all the times that someone important to me had squashed my excitement, diminished my enthusiasm, belittled by dreams, responded with a cold & distant “that’s nice” as I beamed with the possibility of some new opportunity.
As I recounted all of these moments in my memory I began to pick up sticks from the path. One after another after another. “What am I doing with all of these?” I wondered. But it was a compulsion. I couldn’t stop.
As I approached the center of the labyrinth it became clear: these sticks (now an arm-full) were all the crap I’d been carrying around with me, that were keeping me from experiencing joy.
I had carried them into the center of the labyrinth, but I was not going to carry them out with me.
I bent down and laid the pile on the ground and said a prayer to leave all that behind.
As I rose to my feet I looked up to the sky. Just at that moment the sun peeked up over the mountain ridge.
I stood there feeling the warm sun on my face and the freedom created by letting all that go. And I smiled.
Walking out of the labyrinth I let my mind run through all the things in life that were really exciting, all the wonderful experiences I was having and amazing people I was meeting. By the time I reached the exit my heart was beaming.
I couldn’t wait to get back to the retreat and see what this next day had in store.
Of course, after Spring comes Summer –– the eagle, expansion, stepping into greatness and all that’s possible.
That’s when I realized I’d been going about things all wrong.
Over and over again I had been through the fall, released what wasn’t serving me.
I’d sat in the darkness of winter and learned to trust that all was well.
But I had mistakenly thought that summer, expansion, abundance, possibility, greatness came next and that once THAT was accomplished THEN the joy would come.
But Summer never comes before Spring.
Joy and pleasure must always come first.
Then all that is possible can follow.
First Pleasure, then Profits.
If you’re seeking expansion, opportunity, abundance you absolutely must focus on creating joy and pleasure in your life now. Not someday.